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Safer sex

What are common reasons for having safer sex?

My own health

  • I want to run as little risk as possible of getting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as hepatitis C, syphilis or chlamydia.
  • I am afraid of becoming infected with a different strain of HIV that could be resistant to my HIV medicines or that is stronger than the virus I already have.

My sex partner’s health

  • I want to reduce as much as possible the chance that my sex partner will get HIV from me.
  • I want to reduce as much as possible the chance that my sex partner will get an STI from me.

Sexuality at an older age

For many older people, sexuality becomes less important. But that is certainly not to say that it no longer plays any role at all, of course. And it depends a lot on the individual: for some 70-year-olds, sex can still be very important. When you are over 60, you no longer look like you did when you were 20. But you can still find yourself attractive, even as someone who is over 60. What is your self-image? When it comes to changes in your appearance, but also when it comes to your experience of sexuality, it can be important to keep some factors separate: Which things are due to your HIV? Which things are just part of the process of getting older? What else might play a role? Is there anything you can do about it? Or do you simply need to learn to live with it? It sometimes happens that a person will give his or her HIV the blame for a lot of different problems. It is sometimes difficult to distinguish between changes that are due to growing older and changes that are due to HIV. Your sex drive decreases as you grow older, for example, but HIV can obviously also play a role in that regard.

Sexuality if you’ve only just heard that you have HIV

No desire for sex
If you have only just heard that you have HIV, that news can really turn your sex life upside down. Some people will want to have sex again right away, but for many others, sex will be the furthest thing from their minds. Be sure to takenet weet time to process the news. It is not at all crazy if you have no desire to have sex. That is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. On the other hand, it could be good for you to look for intimacy. That can give you support.

A lot to offer
For the vast majority of people with HIV, sexuality does eventually become normal again. Even with HIV, you still have a lot to offer. Which steps do you dare to take? How will you do that? Start from your own strength. Some people even experience it as a relief, for example because they no longer have to live in uncertainty and they know what is going on. Even though you were probably not hoping for HIV, it might still offer you opportunities.

Your sexuality and relationships

Everyone who has HIV ends up living with it in his or her own way, just like everyone experiences his or her sexuality and relationships in his or her own way. Whether you have only just found out that you have HIV or youpositieve seksualiteit have been living with HIV for years already, this booklet offers information and inspiration regarding sexuality. It contains plenty of quotes from people with HIV talking about their sexuality, as well as from people who can offer support in that regard.

Everyone is different
Sexual experience and sexual behaviour differ from person to person. And there are also differences between groups: between men and women, and between homosexuals, straights and bisexuals. It makes a difference whether you are single or in a relationship – and a monogamous relationship is different from an open relationship. It makes a difference whether or not your (sex) partner has HIV, or if you don’t know either way. You can have casual contacts in the form of one-night stands, but there might also be one or more people that you have sex with on a regular basis. There are also differences between people in terms of where they come from. If this booklet says something about a group, it obviously doesn’t apply to every single member of that group. Fortunately there are major differences from person to person.

This booklet is about sexuality for people with HIV. Part of the information deals specifically with HIV. For instance, should you tell someone that you have HIV? And if so, when? And how can you become a mother or a father if you have HIV? This booklet also contains information about sexuality in general – for example about the enjoyment of sex and about sexual problems – wherever HIV might play a role.

Download this booklet or read more of the articles on information -> sexuality.

Your relationship and sexuality

Hearing that you have HIV can turn your relationship into a roller-coaster ride.

If your partner doesn't have HIVrelaties
Do you feel guilty because you have HIV? Has your partner run a risk of getting HIV? Do you feel like you are on an equal basis with your partner? Are you taking extra responsibility to make sure you do not pass on HIV to your partner?

If your partner also had HIV
Is it possible that the one person got HIV from the other?

If you do not have a partner
Are you afraid that you will never find another partner now that you have HIV? Would you prefer to have a partner who has HIV or someone who does not have HIV? Or does that not make a difference to you?


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