Telling others or keeping it to yourself?

Strangely, for many people, the most difficult thing about living with HIV is not so much the condition itself or thevertellen treatment, but the way some people react to you. You might continue to wonder for the rest of your life: ‘Whom should I tell about my HIV? And when should I bring it up?’ Or do you choose to keep it to yourself? People will very often reactive in a positive way if you tell them about your HIV. But sometimes you might also get a negative reaction, and that can have a huge impact. If you decide to tell certain people but not others, can you trust those people not to tell anyone else? For many people with HIV it is a very gradual process: as time goes on, they tell it to more and more people. But it can also happen that someone is very open about it at first but later decides not to tell any new people about it, for example if he or she starts a new job.


Your contact with other people with HIV

 Through the activities of the Hiv Vereniging and other organisations, you can come into contact with other peoplecontact with HIV. Some people find it difficult to have the courage to go to such an activity the very first time. For many people, going to an information meeting is the most comfortable way to start, since you do not necessarily have to say anything when you are there. Once you have taken that first step, you may find it to be a good source of support. When talking with others who have HIV, half a word is often enough. There is so much that you will recognise in the feelings and experiences of others. But you might also discover that others deal with things very differently than you do and you may be inspired to do it that way too – or not. Since everyone at such a meeting has HIV, you are no different than the others.


Your religion

Some people with HIV feel they get a lot of support from their religious beliefs, from rituals or from natural remedies. Others get nothing from those things.

How do you view disease based on your religious beliefs?
Are you ashamed of your HIV? Or do your religious convictions actually help you to give your HIV a place in your life?geloof Christianity condemns dissolute behaviour but is also merciful towards people who are ill. Islam holds that people are obliged to do everything they can to keep themselves healthy. So if you become seriously ill, that is the fate that Allah has determined for you. Hindus see disease – like everything else in life – as inseparably linked with a person’s karma. By being faithful to their convictions, Hindus hope that the good gods will protect them from evil and unhealthy forces. How do you view disease from the perspective of your faith?



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