Pregnancy - desire to have children

Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, and despite your HIV, you can still have a healthy baby under proper supervision from a doctor. If you take certain precautions, it is practically impossible for your baby to get HIV from you. Also since your life expectancy with HIV is more or less normal, HIV doesn’t need to stand in the way of your desire to have children. The only difference is that as a positive woman you cannot breastfeed your baby and your baby will have to take HIV medications for a month. Even though there is almost no chance that your baby will be born with HIV, many new parents (and parents-to-be) are very worried until they get the final results. You also need to think about how the people around you will react: do they realise that you have HIV? And when will you tell your child? Every positive mum or dad will find her or his own way of dealing with these issues. You can get important guidance from your HIV doctor or internist and your HIV nurse. And it is also a good idea to get in touch with other people with HIV who are – or want to become – mothers or fathers.


What positive women and an HIV nurse have to say

Why aren’t you breastfeeding your baby?
I gave birth on Saturday, and on Monday they took a blood sample from her tiny hand. I felt really sorry for her, and it made me feel awfully guilty. The results were good. After six weeks she was tested again, and those results were good too. She will be tested for the last time a month from now, and then we will know for sure that everything is okay. I will be happy when I know that she is completely free. During the pregnancy I thought: ‘Those tests are not so nerve wracking, since the chance is so slight that things will go wrong.’ But it wasn’t until they told me the results that I noticed that I had been stressed about it. It had more of an impact on me than I had expected. It is really my biggest fear that Noni could have it.



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